Coincidentally, Yida and I were in a simliar situation regarding the brothers and jiemei. His was a very heartwarming gesture from his brother. This brother of him, S, is a very nice guy. He's so nice that i treated him as a friend of my own too. They had a brothers meetup last week and all decided to help him with their heart and soul. However, S is a flight attendant. He did mention to Yida that he is still trying to change his flight for our big day. Yesterday, he called my hp coz he couldn't get Yida and stated that it was urgent. The moment i saw my hb-to be, i told him about it and he got a gut feeling it was bad news. True enough, S tried all means to change away his eight days flight but surprisingly no one was willing to take. He told Yida how hard he had try and how sorry he was. After talking to Yida, he also explained to me, apologised and all. Seriously, we don't have any hard feelings over him not able to make it. Disappointment was probably inundating us. He was such a great friend to Yida and me that we intensely wanted him to witness our big day. It was his presence which we wanted to share such joyous day with.
Anyway, we sent him a sms about how we felt, nothing negative. Told him that we nv take it to heart and appreciated how much effort he had put it to try to make his attendance possible. Really, we were very glad to have such a friend. I'm not sure if that sms triggered his outburst of tears but i sort of knew how bad he felt when he can't attend his very good frd wedding after all tries. He literally watched Yida grew up, got a stable girlfriend, graduate and get married. They knew each other since NS days. Shortly after the sms, S called back again and said his frd's frd was willing to exchange flight with him but he may not be able to be his brother for the day. That flight will end at 530pm on 29 May. He firmly said he could make it for our wedding dinner. Upon receiving that news, i could see an uncomfortable smile on Yida's face. A smile that showed happiness and at the same time feeling bad about it. I know what he was thinking. S would be so tired by rushing down right after the flight. It was our turn to feel bad already. We discussed and will probably book a room for S to rest after the dinner. We were very glad he could still make it in the end and really recognised all his efforts for making it possible.
On the other hand, one of my jiemei, M, didn't attend my jiemei gathering last week. She said she couldn't make it. I understood her busy schedule and made another day to meet her alone for briefing. That day was postponed from the scheduled date. Even when she knew about the meetup i had with the rest of my jiemeis, she didn't ask about anything. I saw her on MSN everyday but she just didn't ask. She was probably very busy at work i thought. So i diligently typed out my gate crashing details asap so as she can take a look first but yet no response. A day before our meetup, i still msg her to confirm if she could turn up. No reply till late afternoon.
"Ting, I got a really bad news. My sis just told me that my family trip that she booked confirmed on 28 May to 1 June! Meaning i can't even attend your wedding or be your jie mei. Damn sad. Ting, i really got to know now, hope you and yida wun be angry with me.. Very super sorry. I feel sad and bad also.." -M
"Yr msg came to me as a shock. Noted your point. Dunno what to say to you." - Me
"Gal, i'm sorry, i find it hard to tell you also... really apologised. My sis had tried to postpone but no slot. I think you must be really angry with me now.. Haizz i dont wan it also.. "-M
"I'm not angry prob more pissed. Hai forget it dunno what to say to you also." -Me
That was how she broke the news to me by SMS. All and all i felt cheated. I really cannot believe she just knew it now. If the trip was postponed since early May, she would have know that there would be possibility of such. She could have inform me earlier! All the nonchalence she appeared to have started to make sense to me. I really hope it was just me being petty coz i really think that she wanted to confirm her trip before even meeting me. How can anyone not know about the trip till one week before?? I simply cannot accept that reason. I am really pissed at the fact that there wasn't a warning before all these happened. Do you think i can hear or feel how sorry she was by smsing? Sorry, i can't... i can't telepath with u. Even Saint Yida felt angry over her way of handling things.
M was a over ten years friend of ours since secondary school day. We would be much happier if she had intended a dinner or something to express her apologies before she flies. This M was such a wake up call to me and a humongous contrast to S. Till now, i see her everyday on MSN, yet no conservation whipped up from her. Can someone tell me how sincere she was with apology?
That explained my msn nick "YuFFie- Disappointed".
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5/21/2009 04:16:00 PM
