Sometimes i think my mum is very cruel. I briefly hinted her that by doing what she want, we may have a deficit of around 10k. I did it in a subtle cordial way during a causal conversation over dinner. I am really shocked to hear her saying that if there is deficit, we should loan from his parents first. It's true that his parents have a sum of money for us to loan. So? It still means that we will be oweing that sum of money for the next few years. She continued saying how my dad paid for everything for her wedding and how their parents took back ALL hongbaos. It may be impressive that my dad did that, but what happen to life after that? She was slogging her life for money coz my dad is still a compulsive gambler! So what if he managed to pay everything? What is most important is our life after marriage, isn't it?

Few days back, she mentioned about how others marry their daughters easily with 10 tables on hand. I was really disgusted with that. People may have a rich husband but i don't. Besides it is US who paid for EVERYTHING! Being so disturbed by the statement, i still managed to tell her in very calmed manner that i really hope she understands the whole dinner is fully paid by US.

I was even more appalled when she said that if the groom's parents aren't able to pay for the dinner tables, the couple should shoulder all by themselves. Do you have any idea where this statement will lead? It had just simply cover their asses for my brother's wedding!

I am really reluctant to think my mum in that way. But i really see alot during the wedding preparations. Really heartbroken to see how money can turn someone inside out. My mum still cares about me just that when it comes to money it's a totally different issue. She has no idea what she said wringed my heart. I tried to withhold what she said to Yida but i can't. I didn't want him to have hard feelings but still needed an outlet.

I did have some disagreement with his mum. But i can see that his mum is really worried about the deficit. She may be overtly forcing her idea sometimes but i know she meant well. Of coz, when she did a personal attack to my mum, i stood up. Even my aunties have actually talked to my mum, suggesting that we could all deposit the hongbaos in a box and after breaking even the parents can split the excess. My mum flatly refused, using my dad as an excuse that he would not allow. It's very ironical. In my whole life, my mum has never listen a single sentence from my dad. What makes this wedding so special?? Money!

We just want to break even.

Add on: After chatting with April, i don't think my mum meant harm to us. She's probably not seeing equal effort from his parents as well. I do feel that she still love me very much. Anyway, after ranting, felt so much better.