FieFie & DaDa

* Friday, November 28, 2008 *

Feathers always say "In order to let your pets be happy, you have to be happy first."

I have been thinking of this sentence for quite awhile. It's true. When i'm sad, i looked at them, they looked pretty sad to me. As much as it may sound contradicting now, i guessed i need to wake up. I need to get out of my childishness. Instead of brooding over things which can't be undone, i should be treasuring time we have.

I should learn to keep myself happy like how i hopped on the cab today without worrying his bills. Without second tots, i swiped his card for the cab fare to work. Haha. For the first time, i did it to spite him. But today, was to make myself happy. It does make a difference. When you spite someone, you don't feel happy. But when u did it for yourself, u feel better. Since he has been MIA-ing for freaking half a month, the only thing he could provide is getting me a chaffeur to work esp when i'm still not very well. I am still quite not sure if i'm depressed or the infection is still lurking.

I should learn to focus on the things he could do. Like ermm... i would remember them well next time to help me feel better. I need to learn to do things i like for myself not for him. I have alot to learn.

But i don't know if he realise he has alot to learn ................... or he will just get complacent .............. when i went crazy he wasn't there to witness it............................

Relationship is not just simple cruising along your life. Really. It's a blank piece of paper where you decide what should be written on it. Somehow, you may get frighten scribbling something which you never think through and well enough.

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Twinkling@
11/28/2008 01:44:00 PM

3 Comments:

A relationship is like having a "Love" bank. Both parties must always be adding on to it, like +1pt love, +1pt love, +1pt love. It can never stay complacent because bank will deduct a little each day you don't touch it.

However, when drawing from the "Love" bank, each draw is -5pt love, -5pt love, -5pt love. Which means if he does one nice thing, it's a +1. If he does one bad it's a -5. So the "Love" bank must always be topped up consistantly, to save up for rainy (bad) days.

Both parties also have to consistantly put in effort to make each other happy. There is no such thing as freezing the bank i.e leaving the relationship "like that" for long periods of time.

I learned this from the Marriage prep course April intro-ed me. Maybe you guys can attend it to better understand yourselves and each other? If not, I have an extra set of the readables from the class so you guys can read together and think of ways to improve the relationship. It's very sad to see you so upset.

Cheer up, k?

By Anonymous, at 10:42 PM

Sorry, that was me with a diff account.

By jazzyme, at 10:43 PM

Thanks Jazz, your comments make alot of sense to me. =)

By YuFFie, at 11:07 AM