I had a huge quarrel with him, screaming at the top of my voice, crying. I have to tell him whatever i feel everytime things happen. Empathy is not in his dictionary? Has he ever defended me when unwanted comments aimed its way at me? NO for all times. And he only understood it yesterday.
Yes, it's all about the blunt commentary his mum always does. And everytime such things happen, i REALLY FUCKING hope that he will do something on the spot. NO, he didn't. There were so many FUCKING times he was there to witness the thing and he claimed that he didn't hear it at all. AMAZING how guys are mono-taskers. To be fair, i am telling everything here. Everything that i think is not fair to me and of coz the goodness of his mum at times.
#1
I washed my own inner wears at his place. Very often, i would pour excessive Dynamo into the basin. It's damn heavy u know e bottle? So there was once where i decided to wash it again as i felt they were still soapy. The mum came into the kitchen and said, "WAH, Yanting very mo
(dilly dally, slow) hor? Next time got baby, then e baby cry how?" I kept quiet, pretended to be deaf and continued what i was doing. He was there, and did NOTHING!
#2
His bro's new gf came over. She commented that she did her dishes very fast in front of me. Unintentional? Ok fine. FYI, i did all the dishes washing for ALL meals at his place to show appreciation for his mum's hardwork in preparing.
#3
His bro's new gf always come to the house when the parents are not ard. Whenever, the parents asked her to come, she would say she don't want the dog to be punish coz of her. OKies.... dunno how true. There was once she came over and folded the pile of clothes on the sofa. The mum commented that it was very nice of her to fold for her in front of me, his bro and him. I pretended to be deaf. From the corner of my eyes, i saw his bro signalling his mum not to say such things. I never hear anything from my man. After the incident, i refused to talk to him and he could ask me why? Oh ya, i am petty.
#4
I was talking to Yida in English and his mum jokingly say, "Nah(2) ma(4), speak english dun let me listen is it?" With things snowballing, you think i would laugh at the "joke"?
#5
Yes, i FUCKING don't know how to cook. So? So what if the bro's gf knows how? His son is NOT marrying a maid that does everything for him and to serve all the men in his family. Would you fold someone's else underwear????????????????????????????????
#6
She ever told Yida that his bro would ask his ex gf to wake up early to help his mum to prepare for their grandmother death anniversay. Well, blatant hint. I will only help my mum. I will help his mum if he helps too
(which he usu does). I dun take things in the hard way. The more you wan me to do it, the more i wun do it. Yes, i'm a stubborn ass. It's more of my principles. I do that to my mum too. Dun expect special treatments.
#7
She was bragging about the fortune telling her colleague did for her during dinner time. Stating that her children will be fillial to her. The dad looked at me and asked her, "You never ask if DIL will be fillial?" What would you do if you were me? Smile and continued to pretend the food was delicious? My man was there, sitting, enjoying, stuffing rice into his mouth. He treated it as a joke of course. How about the awkwardness? What he did to ease the tension?
#8
He expected me to tidy his room with him so as to let his mum know that i contributed some in his house. I refused. I have learnt not to lift a finger in his house coz whatever i do is never enough. So i just pleased myself. Yes, he tidied up my room for me coz my mum is nagging. Claiming that he did it out of respect for my mum, he blamed me for not doing anything to put the nagging to the end. I told you, the more you nag, the more i wun do. I will only do when the incessant naggings stop.
#9
I read about dogs and tried to explain as much as possible to her in Mandarin
(Try translating Omega-3 ). My dear girl has this bad habit. Whenever i am at his house, she refused to finish her food by herself. She would either lie there and look at me or sit on her pee tray and watch me. My rule is 30mins, not eating, throw the food away. I reminded his mum again n again n again DO NOT HANDFEED HER! She would keep doing it. FINE FINE FINE.... then my girl will forever do that when i am around and they blame me for it. That particular day wasn't an active day for MuFFin, all she did was lazing around n have training in the evening. Nothing intensive. I didn't want to feed her earlier as i knew her bad habits. His mum will go, "Poor MuFFin hor, your mummy wanna starve your to death." Perfect commentary. Why your mummy? Why not your daddy? Oh Yida was lying on his belly beside me in his own freaking world.
#10
I seriously cannot remember all of the unconstructive comments i've got. But this last one i am typing was my limit. Both of us were lying on the bed using the laptop when she came in and caress MuFFin. She then sat on the floor beside the bed and asked, "Have you call your mum?"
I replied, "No." I cannot exactly remember what she said but she meant that this uselss daughter eat rice waste rice
( in hokkien meaning, i am not grateful to my mum for bringing me up). I really really really pretended to be unaffected by replying uh uh uh all the way. After she went out, i was really furious. Totally mad and i threw tantrums at him. He would ask me with his most innocent expression what happen? Was really impressive how oblivious he can be to his surrounding. This incident just happened RIGHT UNDER HIS NOSE!
If it were anyone else, i wun fucking hold on to my anger. I would curse and swear and blow my top at that person. FOR HIM, i put up with all these. FOR HIM AND MUFFIN, i came over this house FOUR fucking days a week. FOR HIM, i spoke to his mother in the best tone i can have. FOR HIM, i tried to please his mum as much as possible. That was all because i LOVE him. Everytime i complained to him what happen, he would causually brush me off by saying his mum didn't mean it, she was joking, totally unintentional. She sure is a joker then. After which he would pretend nothing happen. Girls don't work like that. We would not forget about it unless there is a complete closure. There weren't ever one. So i just put up, slowly accumulate and e last incident was the limit.
WHen he realised what was wrong after much screamings and all, he said he would talk to his mum. WHat i got back from his conversation with his mum were
#1
She asked Yida not to quarrel with me over her. Say i would be the one he's going to spend the rest of his life with.
#2
She said she maybe wrong saying abt the uselss and eat rice waste rice thingy. She was afraid i made my mum angry for coming over too often
#3
She said if i could think of her good side when she happen to be that blunt again.
#4
She said he could ask his dad to send us wit MuFFIn back to my place if it could make my mum happier.
I was totally taken aback when i heard these, esp the last one. What am i suppose to feel? I know it's coming real from her heart. But if she could put things that nicely in words how could she say those nasty things to me? I am really confused.
My mum and bro said she dun like me to go over so many times a week to bai chi bai zhu. Yida rebuked me saying if she really hates me to go over she would:
#1
Not beat around to bush but to tell the men in her family about it.
#2
Not supposely boil more water, buy extra fruits, cook extra soup upon knowing i'm coming.
#3
Not be willing to ta bao lunch or dinner for me
#4
Not be buying packets of milo when none of her family is taking
Contradicting isn't it? I am actually more upset about my only line of defense than the attacks. Really.... i dunno what to feel. Now i seemed to be the petty mean FDIL. He kept asking me to be MORE understanding
(haven't i been understanding enough coz of my FUCKING LOVE for him? He's asking for more now.... i should be deaf u you know?) to his mum insensitiveness. He asked me not to misunderstand his mum and that she's really kind at heart
(which i believed). I asked who's at fault? He claimed it to be his, never once say the mum is partially wrong or wat. Maybe i am in wrong. Maybe i should just buy ear plugs. Maybe we shouldn't have bought MuFFIn. Maybe i should just not go over and stay. Maybe i shld continue and act silly.
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Twinkling@
9/04/2007 10:24:00 AM
