Let me begin a story... Four people in the same company, grew from nothing to good friends. To the extend of being the jie-meis for one of them during her big day. They shared laughters, sorrows, complaints and even sexual exploits for some of them. Each of them hoping each other to find their true love and lead a life of 'happily ever after'.

Any one in the group will be extremely concerned with who any of them met or interested in. Jerks are all around so they had 'screenings' for the potential boyfriends. I just wanted to tell the story of this girl in the group. Not to spite her but to express my utter disappointment and anger for her.

Every morning, you would hear the four of them laughing, gossiping and complaining in this small room of the company while attending to their work. They would go lunch, drinks, pool and even clubbing together off working hours. Unfortunately, you could only hear 3 voices, 3 laughters now.

It all changed when this man came to the picture. This man from a different world, culture with different thinking. (I cannot exactly tell you where this man came from just in case i'm being labeled racist) Well, this man obviously is related to the main character of the story. He's the husband of this lady. Remember i mentioned 'screening' of men? Due to all her past stories of jerks, the rest of the group hope that she would find a reliable man to depend on, and are extremely concern about her love life especially. So this 'interview' was carried out, probably slightly more than a year ago.

On the first impression, he is a fine, well-mannered man. They were quite happy with what they saw. In a short period of three months, this man proposed to her. This man actually got a lot of help from the fiancé of the engaged lady in the group. He asked for every single detail about the ring. The poor fiancé had to give him a lecture on the 4Cs of diamond over text sms. ‘Could you tell me what ring you bought for your fiancée?’

Armed with those information, he went down to the jewellery shop. ‘Is grade E good?’ ‘What about VVS1?’ He needed lots of affirmation. Whenever he stumbled upon any glitches (regardless minor or major), he would call the fiancée.

Obviously, the girl didn't know ANY thing about that. Who will have the heart to tell her that yr future husband should have done his homework on diamonds? Being friends then, they wouldn't mind and helped in whatever way they could..

Then, this man wanted to give her a little surprise for the day at work. He also got help from one of the girls to give his girlfriend a pleasant surprise. All these small little helps were all thrown aside after he got the girl?

There was this occasion that this poor girl had serious allergy problem due to some drugs she took. She had continuous medical leave. She left no instructions for her undone work. She didn't even report what was wrong with her to the boss. Of coz the group knew. They felt that the medical condition of a person is personal. So when the bosses ask, all they wanting to do is to cover up. So a joke was made purely out of, "Maybe the husband is foreign to her" (Get the joke?) Maybe you want to refer to this entry of my blog

She did a rebuttal and defended her husband through the comments she posted. It was offensive as well, more than one of them were angry with the kind of comment this 'friend' gave. It was removed after the misunderstanding was over to protect her? It was requested anyway. The group thought that the misunderstanding was cleared and they would be the same again.

It all ended abruptly when this girl stopped talking to the whole group. She left the rest of the group pondering what had happen? They made wild guesses for weeks and trying to get her back to their world. Obviously all were in vain. What had actually happened no one knows except herself and her husband. All advances were stopped after one month of trying. They gave up but felt unsettled.

Until much later, it was said that the group actually make jokes out of her husband and her. Seriously, if someone were to be that sensitive over tiny weeny bit of things people said, then please stay away from Earth but in lonely planet. What kind of jokes the group made? They themselves have no idea.

Someone from the group asked her, “ Are we still friends?”
She replied, “Yes, we are. Just not so close anymore.”
Well, the next thing you know, the whole group was blocked on her msn list and probably labeled as enemies.

The irony here is that this girl actually invited one of her colleagues in her dislike list to her wedding in March. And the rest of the group are not invited nor informed. In the past, if she can't make it to work, she would sms them but now she informed her dislike list people. All the conversations and smile she made to that colleague, we deemed it as hypocrisy.

This story was penned not because the 3 girls are trying to claim credit or glory or whatsoever. Deep inside each of them, they feel hurt more than anger that this main character could be so heartless as to drop them like dirty trash, totally out of her life. She didn’t bother to clarify the issues but just jumped to conclusions. It hurt, it hurt and the 3 girls are grossly misunderstood.

If she thought that they were badmouthing or gossiping about her and her husband again, it’s because that was their only outlet to vent their hurts and frustrations.

You are not our friend anymore. Period.

After writing this story, what I would like to tell people about friendship is that it is not one way. It works in both. And being real friends, you should be able to take some crappy jokes. To what kind of extend… hmm … for example, once in a while your group calls you a bimbo. Well, to me, I don’t really feel a thing because I was being called a blardy pig before. Lol… big deal? NOPE…They are all my friends.

Only friends will give you their real opinions. So if you can't take positive criticism, you don't deserve the blessing to make friends! If I have to think deeply if any words i said may hurt you in any conservations, then it would be too tiring to be your friend.