Marriage by the definition from Dictionary.com is the legal union of a man and woman as husband and wife. It is never an easy task. This year allowed me to see at least 5 marriages coming. I saw 2 marriage preparation upclosed! All the behind-scenes are transparent too. The only word i could say is *GLURP*! I can never imagine myself doing that.
When i said that most of the wedding preps were mostly coordinated by the bride, someone told me "It is the consequences of saying YES to the question". @_@ Totally speechless! But why can't it be the consequences of saying "Will you marry me?' Geez... Another someone told me, after the guy brought up the question,n he remained nonchalent while the girl starts to plan meticulously. When the date drew near, the groom starts to look forward while the bride starts having jitters. Hmm.. interesting but scary facts!
Squabbles are inevitable in the midst. And one's imperfection becomes piercing at times. You asked yourself, "Am i supposed to live with this for the rest of my life?" Next spontaneous question would be, " Do i really want to marry him?" On top of that, you have to bear with parents interference as well as monetary constraints. Suddenly, you feel that life is bleak. You asked yourself again, " Why did you ever get into these mess?" Feeling indignant, you begin to pick fault at them. For a fact, guys are guys, they could just sleep with loads of things put behind their mind.
Or on the other hand, what if the groom started to behave abnormally, like becoming more petty. The bride worried. What caused the change? Males have jitters too? The problem with male is that due to their humogous ego, they rather not talk abt it. Why? Since when communication impede any advancement in assurance? Poor bride-to-be can't stop rummaging her thoughts.... being too accomodating is never good. And this reminds me of another phrase brought up by this person. It says "Will your right hand ever complain that it do more work than left hand?" I was in dilemma to agree with that. Then came another one from this other someone, " It takes two hands to clap!" Can someone depict this for me? Leave that in my comments please. LOL
All of the glitches with understanding and empathy would usually resolved eventually (i hoped, I dun want to hear anyone annulling their engagement.) And here comes a beautiful, well planned wedding on that very day of you life. The wedding march is the first song that struck my mind. Lovely couple, mischievious jie-meis, kisses, tears and love, of course, followed. Rings exchanged, signatures given, n here the definition of marriage is fulfilled. At this point of time, with the bickerings happened, the two wonderful heaven-made couple should understand each other more and be more ready to lead a life together. (i'm still thinking about the left and right hand thingy.)
Marriage is not the end. It is just the beginning. If you think that marriage is good coz you can see, cuddle and hug each other everyday, it's definitely beyond that. Now, i sound like some kind of pro writing about marriage. No no.. not trying to be one. Just that, i think i'm not up to the preparations phase and maybe not up to the bickering part too. And the right and left hand thingy still bothers me.
Looking forward to the most beautiful day of your life! *hugs*
Twinkling@
8/19/2005 10:54:00 AM
oh... i do make sure my left and rite hand does the same or more or less the same amount of work... tats in both relationship and in real life... thus i am a left hander!! hehe... so i can use my left hand to write and pick up chop sticks and use my rite hand to open doors and comb my hair... balancing mah =P
how do you KNOW that he's the one you want to spend the rest of your life with? plus, marriage almost definatly changes everything to boring daily life basis, how do you make the decision knowing that it's inevitable?
Ooo... Feathers, i also same same.. i can used both hands to write just that left hand slower. Use both hands to brush my teeth. Use both hands to put make up... lol..
Jazz, that's e paradox of marriage lo. You know what's happen next will u still step into it??? *killme* that's why i'm in great admiration of those marrying.
step into marriage so tough? always believe there will be rainbow after the rain thingy bah... starting of marriage sure rocky... but think of the happily ever after when the arguements become lesser n lesser and near non existent =)
I hope what you had witnessed so far will not put you off marriage, but instead prepare you for what is to come.
A beautiful wedding with roses, but a marriage isn't always rosy a picture. And it really takes two hands to clap in a marriage.
I hope you can make a round of applause.
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